An ongoing challenge is to maintain active, meaningful focus “out there” on what the group is doing, whether developing skills, exploring new content, or grasping new concepts. Invigorating activity produces group camaraderie and inner satisfaction as a by product.
When children turn to mulling over how they are “getting on” and posturing for acceptance by unconsciously doing little things for the express purpose of getting a dopamine hit via others’ high fives, they can easily shift from healthy growth to unhealthy ruminations.
There’s a rather relevant analogy here to Jesus’ words that he who focuses on saving his life will lose it, while he who will lose it will save it. Focus outward on activities, others, events, exercise of talents, and the wonders of His world fosters growth and satisfaction.