Recently I observed her sitting at her desk for 15-20 minutes, not doing a thing. She’s usually quite ambitious, so I suspected that she didn’t know how to do something in her book. I really wanted her to ask for help, so I waited a long time, hoping she’d get up the nerve to ask. She didn’t. Finally I went over, just in case she was sick or something and couldn’t work because of that. Sure enough, she didn’t remember how to count by 25’s. I encouraged her to ask me the next time – that I’m here to help her, and it’s OK if she doesn’t always remember everything. 🙂 I think it has actually been going better since that incident. She seems more willing to ask for help.
I like your ideas about drawing her out, too. I am really trying to carry more (one sided) conversations with her, just chatting about this or that. I actually think it might be working. She’s still not chattery, but it’s better than total silence.